Or calmly talk about things that need to change without freaking completely out on the other person.

It comes down to the point where sometimes I feel like I'm not in an equal opportuntiy relationship.

I understand that I've messed up in the past, and for that I've paid/and will continue to pay my dues.

Yet the problems discussed today have roots in the past.

Maybe it's my fault for allowing the things that bother me to slide. Doing my best not to bring them up, because...

I understand that it just upsets her. (but that's the problem, inability to communicate when it's needed)

To me, it comes across as sheer laziness and impatience. When someone offers their help and you respond, "I KNOW HOW TO DO IT." (and then consistantly do it wrong)

When someone offers you insight to the specific whereabouts of something, or the validity of a story...

If you think them wrong don't outright oppose their story (unless you have airtight proof of the contrary), simply ask them to prove their point or say, "You may be right, but I'm pretty sure it's the other way around" (without coming across as a smartass)

It's called Tact

Because when you are wrong after violently opposing something, it gives the illusion that you are completely uninformed and pretty much a rude individual.

If you use the slightest amount of tact in the occurance of disagreement, you have the ability to save face and not seem as rude. If the other person gloats at your error, have the humility to admit that you were wrong. (you can even bring up the fact that you yourself had said that 'you may be wrong')

so what now?

Well unfortunately, I have to Prove myself tonight... or else I wouldn't even go to this party tonight. I'm pretty much too ticked off to go and be with the person that "I feel" has no respect for me or my feelings.

The point of tonight's trial is to prove that I CAN respect Valorie. It's also a trial of our relationship. Which means that she herself is on trial as well. It doesn't matter how much respect I have for her if she has no respect for me.

And even though I'm mad at her I've still been civil. I've asked her if she'd like to go to Emily's and she said NO (not even thinking that I might have wanted to go other places while I was out)

But, whatever.